I was a financial advisor for over 16 years and miserable the entire time. The money was great, but I didn’t have any trusted friends and being the youngest female in the office and the only female broker, I couldn’t be friends with the staff when I had to delicate to them. I tried and it backfired!
It was lonely. I was always looking for something else. I felt like I had two identities. I wore a suit during the day, sweats at night and was digging in the dirt and doing home improvements on the weekends.
I left my job 5 1/2 years ago for various reasons. I had a lot of healing to do and in the process have been going through a 3 1/2 year divorce that has challenged every bit of my soul.
Since filing for divorce, I have made friends, I have connected with incredible people and have learned more about empathy, judgment and trying not to take someone else’s actions personally.
I have a lot less money and am having to rent out a 1/3 of my house. The thing is, I’m so much better of now than I ever was. I have more insight into myself, I am a lot less judgmental, I apologize when I am wrong and have been open to seeing another person’s point of view.